Archive for April, 2008


Two Truths and a lie

April 30, 2008

I love this game.  You have everyone submit on paper two truths about themselves, and one lie, and then you have to vote on who you think wrote it, and what the lie is.  Very fun ice breaker, highly recommend it.  The trick is to come up with OUTLANDISH things in your life that are true, and something boring that is fake.


*I was attacked and mauled by a duck at the age of 5. (true)

*I wet the bed sporadically far too long into my teens. (sadly, true)

*I don’t like ice cream.  (boring, and false, and would definately give it away that it was me trying to bluff)

Right now I am reading a book by Josh Harris called Not even a hint.  It’s all about the battle of lust we each face, men AND women.  Today’s chapter was all about combating the lies of lust with the truth of scripture.  Instead of just trying to plug our ears and close our eyes when lust rears itself and shouting "I can’t hear you I don’t see you la la la la", combating it with truth from God’s Word.  His list of lies verses the truth was LONG.  I will list a few of my favorites.  I highly recommend the book, both it AND the Bible! in this worth while struggle!

Lie: Lust is no big deal

Truth Job 31:11-12 

For lust is a sinful shame, a crime that should be punished. It is a devastating fire that destroys to hell. It would wipe out everything I own.


Lie: A little sinful fantasizing won’t hurt.

Truth: To set the mind on the flesh is death, but to set the mind on the spirit is life and peace. Rom 8:6

Truth: Gal 6:7-8 Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life.

Truth: But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. Rom 13:14

Lie: The pleasure lust promises is better and more real than God’s pleasure

Truth: You have made known to me the path of life: you will fill me joy in your presence, with eternal pleasures at your right hand. (Ps 16:11)

Lie: Fulfilling my lust will satisfy me

Truth, “I say to myself, “The Lord is my portion; therefore I will wait for him”, The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord (Lam 3:24-26)

Lie: Too much purity will keep me from seeing and enjoying beauty.

Truth: Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God (Matt 5:8)

Truth: For the Lord is righteous, he loves righteous deeds, the upright shall behold his face. (Ps 11:7)

Truth: Your eyes will behold the king in his beauty; they will see a land that stretches afar. (Is 33:17)



April 29, 2008


04-29-08 002 Here is how I spent most of my day today.  This is a very flattering pic of me.  Note the racoon like eyes.  Being sick is no fun.  My wife put the hot pack on my head to help with the headache that ensued from a cranium full of snot. 


Lord save us from your followers

April 28, 2008

I went and watched Lord save us from your followers last night with a group from Sunset.

It is a hard hitting documentary about how the average person views the church and Christians.  It is challenging and thought provoking.

I have several thoughts after watching it.  I will list a few.

The inadequacies I see in the church by watching the film, only really point to me.  I cannot point my finger at the church without first taking a hard look at my own heart.  Not Sunset, not even other people on staff.  What am I doing about these issues?  Aids, poverty, loving gays, loving my community, serving the poor?  I strongly believe that a church will never mobilize resources to do something other than what individuall eaders or people in the congregation are already passionate about on their own. 

While I strongly agree that I have A LONG way to go in acting out my faith, in reaching out, and loving my neighbor, I have a check about my motivation.  To me there is a small undercurrent in this movie that if we just reach out enough, and in the right way, we can build a bridge to the non Christian community and they will like us.  I disagree with that on some level.  What I mean is, yes I need to learn how to reach out in humility, and understanding and love and sacrifice, and yes I will be living the gospel and showing Christ as I do so.  However, I still need to speak the truth in love, and Jesus is clear that some will hate me simply because of the truth I claim.  So my motivation cannot be to be "liked" by people who don’t believe the same way I do.  My motivation has to be strictly for Jesus.

So I highly recommend you watch the film.  And and as a good friend of mine said, let’s not just watch it, let’s do something about it.  And let that start with me.



April 28, 2008

So Allison brings home Ben and Jerry’s ice cream tonight for a suprise.  These are two little tiny tiny tiny minature Ben and Jerry’s. One was for Macy, one for me.  Macy had cookie dough, I had chocolate brownie. 

Seriously these are like 2 bites a piece in these little cups.  Macy was SO excited to eat hers.  She was about one bite into it, and I said, "Macy, can I have the rest of your ice cream?"  (Of course I had already ate mine in about .2 seconds) 

She looked at her ice cream, looked up at me, paused, and then slid it over to me with a smile on her face.  I was so blown away by her generosity I wanted to cry. 

By the way, I didn’t eat it.  I gave her back to her, and her smile was even bigger.


Family Fun night

April 26, 2008

This was my third family fun night at Sunset.  This is the only one where we had a lock down due to a robbery at the car wash next door.  I was fully prepared to to use what I have learned in one of my cardio classes on how to punch if the perp had come in.  Since I can’t run do to my knee I would have had to taunt him and make fun of his mask or something to get him in close.

As usual, there was the ever awe inspiring inflatables.  This guy was the first time I was ever slightly troubled to enter one.  You had to crawl under his legs and he just looked like he wanted to sit on intruders.  Thankfully I never had to find out.  200 pound weight limit.  Nuff said.

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They did bring back my all time favorite slide for family fun night.  I had a considerably harder time climbing this year post knee surgery, but the payoff was worth it.

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One of the reasons I was personally excited about going was to see the magician.  When he started, Macy had the option of doing that, OR, standing in line for the better of ETERNITY for this;

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Thankfully Ava helped entertain me and good friends like Jill as we waited for the facial masterpiece.

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Whose your Joe?

April 25, 2008

I used to work in construction, and one of my foremen was Joe. Joe and I did not click. I dreaded going to work nearly every day if I knew I was going to be working for him. He had a very skillful way of making me feel stupid. I was a teenager so maybe I just was. I worked so hard trying to please him, to gain his approval, but never could. It got so frustrating on one occasion, that in the middle of the day I had decided I’d had enough and I walked off the job. Since I needed the money and had nowhere else to work, I had to come back the next day. Ya, that was awkward.

Do you have a Joe right now in your life? What are you going to do about it? Walk off the job? Walk off the team? Did Jesus know about Joe when he said this?

John 17:21 I pray that they will all be one, just as you and I are one—as you are in me, Father, and I am in you.

22 “I have given them the glory you gave me, so they may be one as we are one. 23 I am in them and you are in me. May they experience such perfect unity that the world will know that you sent me and that you love them as much as you love me.

While I do remember trying to work hard for Joe, I don’t remember praying for Joe. I don’t remember reaching out to him or caring about him or his life or story. It was all about me, my feelings, and what I deserved.

I can’t go back, and neither can you, but I’m willing to bet both you and I will have another Joe in our life that we will have the chance to explore this whole unity thing with.


culturally relevant

April 24, 2008

You read those words and you didn’t even want to read this post.  Trust me, I understand.

These two words have become very popular in churches lately.  Certainly in the church I attend and work at you hear these words a lot.

I have so many emotions and feelings and thoughts when I hear them I couldn’t begin to get them all out or down in a blog.  I think we all do. I think those two words together are as loaded and complicated and layered as the word "worship".

What I am wrestling with lately with me personally, is what makes ME culturally relevant or not?

Does it have more to do with whether or not I’m up on the latest episode of The Office?  Does being able to influence the culture around me mean that I have to on a certain level be influenced by it?  Am I a more effective Christian by educating myself in current forms of media?

Or is it much more about reaching out in love, compassion and truth regardless if I drink Starbuck’s weekly or not?

It might sound like from what I wrote above I have it figured out.  Nothing could be farther from the truth.  My head is so full of information, seminars, books, conversations, and opinions on what it means for a church to be culturally relevant that is leaking out my ears.

Of the million things I don’t know, this I do know.  Love is always relevant. Always.   


Not for the faint

April 23, 2008

Working at a church, is not for the faint of heart.

There are;

Deadlines, goals, quotas, demands, expectations.

There is always potential for;

Misunderstanding, confusion, miscommunication, failure, burnout,gossip, slander, pride, ego.

You consistently encounter;

Criticism, discouragement, resource issues, opinion differences.

But also when you work at a church….

There are;

People that God loves and died for, people that need His hope and His love, and people who need to catch that vision.

There is always potential for;

A revival of the heart, the revival of a congregation, the revival of a community, and so on.

And you consistently encounter;

Grace, humility, forgiveness, encouragement, hope.

Working at a church is the hardest and most wonderful thing I have ever had the privilege to do.   


Mondays and the rest of the week

April 21, 2008

Am I the only one who views Monday as the most important day of the week in regards to living life well?  For me, Monday is a tone setter, for the positive or the negative.

*If I eat well and exercize on Monday, I probably will most of the week, or vice versa.

*If I make getting in the Word and prayer a priority on Monday, it carries through the week, or vice versa.

*I am actually writing this post right now instead of driving to the gym which I should be doing.  Its Monday.


Fostering healthy teams

April 21, 2008

I am blessed to work at a church with a lot of resources.  I am also blessed to be a worship leader at a church with a lot of very gifted musicians, both in the band and on the vocals teams.  One of the hard parts of my job is walking the balance of what’s best for the congregation and where we are headed, and what’s best for the people that are serving in the context of a healthy team.  Often times I feel in walking that balance I cause both focuses to suffer.  Recently I sent the people that serve on my vocal team this letter.

Hey all,

Well, this has been on my mind to write for awhile.  Today is the day! 

I want to acknowledge the fact that you may be on the team, and haven’t sung very much at all.   I think about this every week, when I look at the list, and see who has sung and who hasn’t.

There are a lot of factors going into that…factors like;

*This year I have planned vocals by looking at the service plan, thinking about voices that work for a particular song, looking at whose on band that day and who sings from the band, if choir is on or One2One etc.

*I balance that with looking back over the last couple of months and seeing when people were on, as well as availability you have given me or scheduling conflicts.

*Now that the choir and One2One is on sometimes on up to three times in a month combined, the worship team in the nine is harder to get onto the rotation.

*I also have scaled back the amount of vocals I use in the eleven at times.  Sometimes only having one or two other singers, and having the energy coming more from the band than vocally led.  I have leaned this way because a lot of the songs we are now singing are built around this type of sound, and less on a lot of voices.   This makes it harder to be on the rotation in the eleven.  Adding to that that since hiring Tyler who sings very well from the guitar, and bringing on Ben Porter in the band who sings very well, many times when they play the guys are covered, both in the nine and the eleven.

Last year it was more of a regular rotation when you were on the team, this year it is not uncommon for you to have sung maybe only once this whole year so far!

So what does this mean?  Well, I can tell what I don’t want to happen because of this.  I don’t want people to feel like they are less valued or to feel less connected.  Both of those scenarios would be natural to feel, and honestly I’m really concerned about it.   Some of you may feel totally comfortable just coming and singing when you are asked, even if it’s not regular.  You are plugged in somewhere, and your needs for connection are being met.   Others may not be connected elsewhere, and sporadic singing on the team is not cutting it for you.  I really want to hear from you on this, how you are doing, how you are feeling.  I am rapidly coming up again to the summer, which is the time I need to look at where we are at, and the best scenario, the most healthy scenario for the church and for you the faithful team members who just have a heart to serve.

So, email, call, come meet, lets dialogue about this.

This post might be totally boring to you.  Just an attempt to give you some inside looks at some of the aspects of ministry.